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How to Make Friendships You WON'T Regret!

Dr Dharius Daniels

Change Church • Mar 15, 2024 • 11 min

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Take this message with you through a journey of Scripture, reflection, and prayer.

Summary

The trajectory and quality of your life are deeply impacted not only by who you are, but by who you surround yourself with. While all people are equally valuable in the eyes of God, not everyone adds equal value to your personal calling and destiny. By following Jesus' relational model of defining inner and outer circles, believers can stewarding their relationships with wisdom, discernment, and peace.

Themes

Relational IntelligenceDiscernmentGodly FriendshipsStewardship of RelationshipsRelational Boundaries

Pastor's Points

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The Three (Inner Circle)

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The Twelve (Core Circle)

3.

The Seventy / Seventy-Two (Outer Circle)

Key Points

1.
The course and quality of your life are directly and indirectly shaped by the relationships you keep.
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All people are equally valuable to God, but not all people add equal value to your specific life assignment.
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Walking with wise companions helps you become wise, whereas being a companion of fools causes you to suffer indirect harm from their actions.
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People in your life are not merely casual acquaintances; they are purpose partners who impact your spiritual, emotional, financial, and professional health.
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Guarding access to your life is not unloving or unchristian; it is an essential aspect of biblical stewardship and relational intelligence.
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Jesus provided the ultimate example of relational management by maintaining distinct relational circles: the three, the twelve, and the seventy.
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Your inner circle consists of people who can support you both at your highest moments of victory and your lowest moments of vulnerability.

Sermon Moments

“People's greatest joy and people's greatest pain came from the same place—relationships.”

“Walk with the wise and become wise; a companion of fools suffers harm.”

“People aren't just people; people are purpose partners.”

“Your inner circle can handle you at your highest on the Mount of Transfiguration and at your lowest in the Garden of Gethsemane.”

“A lot of people get in trouble because they take people to the valley with them that can only handle them on the mountain.”

This Week

Evaluate your current friendships to discern which relational circle each person belongs in.

Identify your 'three'—the trusted friends who can support you in both high moments of victory and low moments of trial.

Release guilt about setting healthy boundaries, recognizing that guarding access to your personal life is biblical wisdom.

Examine your own behavior to ensure you are a sharpening, wise, and reliable friend to those around you.

Avoid sharing your deepest vulnerabilities and struggles with people who are only equipped to handle your successes.

Study biblical wisdom regarding relationships, particularly in books like Proverbs, to build scriptural criteria for friendships.

Pray for spiritual discernment to place people in the correct relational seats for your current season.

Remember This

While everyone is valuable to God, you are responsible for discerning who belongs in your inner circle to fulfill your God-given destiny.

A Challenge for You

Take responsibility for your relational life by evaluating who sits in your three, your twelve, and your seventy, and place everyone in the right relational seat.

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