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How To Deal With Offensive People

Time of Celebration Ministries Church • Jan 18, 2026 • 58 min

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Summary

In this message, Pastor Jerry Flowers teaches that living in an easily offended world is not merely a personality quirk, but prophetic evidence of the end times. He encourages believers to cultivate unoffendable character, refrain from becoming offenders themselves, and guard their hearts against growing cold due to lawlessness. Ultimately, offense serves as a test of spiritual maturity, and how we handle offensive people often determines our path to divine promotion.

Themes

Spiritual MaturityOvercoming OffenseEnd Times ProphecySelf-ControlHeart TransformationForgiveness and Agape Love

Pastor's Points

1.

Cultivate unoffendable character.

2.

Do not be the offender.

3.

Do not let offensive people give you a cold heart.

4.

Recognize divine promotion in opposition.

5.

Guard your tongue and avoid retaliation.

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Stand firm in God, not in your flesh.

7.

Keep your heart soft.

8.

Pray for your offender.

Key Points

1.
The quality and well-being of your life is directly connected to your thinking, your pursuits, and your decisions rather than your raw emotions.
2.
Offense is the test and your response is the grade; spiritual maturity is demonstrated not by how loud you respond, but by how controlled you remain.
3.
Widespread offense in the end times is a prophetic sign foretold by Jesus, requiring believers to intentionally avoid falling into betrayal or cold-heartedness.
4.
Whenever God calls a person to greater revelation or anointing, He begins by shedding extra weight, bad circles, and personal comfort.
5.
It is better to suffer physical loss than to be a stumbling block or spiritual barrier that causes others to fall away from Christ.
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Just as extreme cold alters the interior of a water bottle until it freezes solid, a cold and lawless environment will harden a believer's heart if they remain in it too long.
7.
The promoter and the offender are often one and the same; how you handle your offenders determines whether you step into God's promotion or plateau.

Sermon Moments

“Offense is the test. Your response is the grade.”

“If your faith leaves bodies behind you, that's not faith. That's terrorism.”

“When God calls you to greater, it starts by shedding—shedding your circle, your friends, your opinions, and your comfort.”

“You arrive at another level of spiritual maturity when you learn how to thank God for cutting on you versus cutting you off.”

“Does my lust to be vindicated compete with my hunger for God?”

“A water bottle left in a cold atmosphere freezes solid; if you stay in a cold, offensive atmosphere too long without God's fire, it will get on the inside of you.”

“David had an opportunity to kill Saul, but he killed the offense instead.”

“Satan doesn't need to destroy you if he can provoke you.”

This Week

Pause before responding when provoked, allowing the fruit of self-control to make executive decisions rather than your emotions.

Examine your recent posts, conversations, and behavior to ensure you are acting as a bridge to Christ rather than a barrier or offender to others.

Identify any areas of bitterness, grudge, or resentment in your heart and actively confess them to God before they crystallize.

Reframe opposition from difficult individuals at work or home as potential moments for God to test and promote your spiritual character.

Choose not to clap back or defend yourself when bad-mouthed, placing your trust in God's vindication instead of your own ego.

Pray specifically for someone who has offended or hurt you this past week, asking God for their spiritual well-being.

Practice agape love by making a conscious decision to act in goodwill toward an offensive person, regardless of your immediate feelings.

Remember This

Offense is a test of spiritual maturity, and learning to handle offensive people with self-control and agape love unlocks God's divine promotion in your life.

A Challenge for You

Do not let the lawlessness and coldness of this world freeze your heart; choose today to surrender your reactions to the Holy Spirit and remain an unoffendable billboard for Jesus Christ.

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